Feeling Loved, Safe, Seen, & Secure Isn't Luck...It's Learned

You didn’t choose anxiety, avoidance, or people-pleasing.

Your nervous system learned it.

What was learned can be unlearned - safely..

This is where you learn a different way.

Start Feeling Safe & Secure

Welcome to Your Safe & Secure Era

Safe & Secure is a self-paced journey that helps your nervous system soften back into safety and heal the roots of insecure attachment.

This is where attachment science, nervous-system regulation, and feminine energetics come together - gently, practically, and embodied.

Start feeling safe again - inside yourself and in your relationships.

Welcome, Lucky Lady.

xo, Sonia

I'll meet you inside!

Continue When You're Ready

The Real Problem

It’s not that you’re “bad at relationships.”
It’s not that you’re “too much” or “not enough.”
It’s that your nervous system learned (and maybe even inherited) survival instead of safety.

This can look like:

      • Overthinking, self-doubt, and replaying conversations

      • Craving intimacy but panicking when it’s actually there

      • People-pleasing, shutting down, or pulling away

      • Feeling exhausted from trying to “fix” yourself

Nothing is wrong with you.
Your body just learned patterns that once kept you safe.

The Transformation 

          • Instead of spiraling, you’ll know how to calm your body and regulate your emotions.

          • Instead of chasing, clinging, shutting down, or second-guessing, you’ll feel steady, grounded, and safe to receive love - from yourself and others.

          • You’ll stop repeating the same relationship patterns and begin experiencing connections that feel nourishing, mutual, and secure.

          •  You’ll trust yourself again - your needs, your boundaries, your intuition.

          • You'll experience more coherence - mind, body, and spirit.

The transformation isn’t becoming someone new.
It’s remembering who you were before your nervous system had to armor up.

I'm Ready to Remember

Are You The Next Lucky Lady?

Who This Is For

        • You feel deeply, love wholeheartedly, and carry more than you let on

        • You keep finding yourself in relationship dynamics that leave you drained

        • You crave connection and love, but don’t always feel safe when it’s actually there

        • You’re tired of overthinking, controlling, and micromanaging outcomes

        • You want to feel calmer, steadier, and more secure in your body

        • You’re ready for healing that honors mind, body, and soul

 If you nodded while reading this - you’re in the right place.


     
Who This Is Not For

    • You’re looking for a quick fix without doing inner work

    • You want traditional therapy or clinical treatment (this is coaching, not therapy)

    • You’re not ready to take gentle responsibility for your healing

    • You’re unwilling to slow down and create space for change

    • You want information without embodiment or practice

    • You’re closed off from intuition, inner child work, or feminine energetics

 
 
This work is experiential, relational, and embodied.
If You Felt Seen - You Can Begin Here

What Women Are Saying!

This work is built from the same tools that have helped me and hundreds of my therapy and coaching clients transform their attachment patterns.

I have loved doing your safe and secure course.The information you give is so good. For someone who has resented counseling or help in general for a long time, I'm so glad that your page came across my feed and I signed up! Thank you! Thank you for all your hard work putting all this together!!

— AC, Current Coaching Client

Beyond highly recommended, I would not be here in a healthy relationship without Sonia’s advice over the last 3 years.

— Erin, Past Client

Even after just a couple of the lessons, I feel like I have been more present in my body this week, reminding myself that I am an observer of my emotions. I've caught myself in intense emotions a couple times since starting the course, and although I haven't yet completely internalized the messages I've learned, I am definitely starting to shift that emotional dependence back to myself instead of the outcome of the situation.

I'm stoked to actually set aside time to learn about these fundamentals you're teaching, and I really feel optimistic that I can find total security in myself because I truly believe that I am the creator of my own universe.

— SS, Current Coaching Client

"I loved working with Sonia. She made me feel comfortable and safe, and it was easy to open up to her. I never felt judged, even sharing some things I had a lot of shame around. She taught me new coping skills and ways to adjust my internal dialogue that are continuing to benefit me. I truly think my life trajectory has changed for the better - meaning I am able to be more present in the moment and less weighed down by negative or intrusive thoughts now.

— Kristin, Past Client

Being born in another country, then being in an orphanage for 3 years and then coming to another country with people I had no clue who they were. This statement couldn't be more true in my life. Thankful to be learning how to actually calm my nervous system and feel safe!

— AC, Current Coaching Client

"I have had several mental health professionals throughout the past decade, but my time with Sonia has been the most effective and genuinely supportive experience I’ve had so far. From the beginning, Sonia was professional, non-judgemental, and committed to my well-being. This was apparent from when she first reached out to me to schedule an appointment, to when she listened intently to my history and therapy goals, and throughout the year of therapy together. The main target areas when I entered therapy were to address depression, anxiety, family trauma, and life transitions (career). I am happy to say that I have successfully resolved my concerns and have developed skills in self-compassion, positive self-talk, and mindfulness. Furthermore, I have rebuilt relationships in my family and have successfully transitioned into a career that I feel happy pursuing. The biggest contribution to this growth was the opportunity for me to dive deeper. Sonia had built a safe space for me to feel comfortable expressing suppressed emotions and memories, and that significantly aided my process in healing. Sonia also offered practical guidance in areas I was struggling with, such as sleep, organizing my day, social interactions, and physical activity. Through Sonia’s guidance, I was given great care to help me flourish into my best self.

— Anita, Past Client

What You'll Experience

This is not information to manage - it’s an experience you integrate. Inside Safe & Secure, you'll:

    • Regulate anxiety and come out of survival mode

    • Heal insecure attachment patterns at the nervous-system level

    • Reconnect with your inner child in a grounded, supportive way

    • Learn how to give and receive love without self-abandonment

    • Practice tools you can return to for life

Everything is designed to be gentle, practical, and embodied.

You don’t have to master this all at once.
You just have to begin.

I'm Curious...Let's Go

What's Included In This Lucky Lady Transformation

These values reflect what these teachings, sessions, and therapeutic-level tools would cost if purchased separately.

The Lucky Lady Lifeline 

($1,000 /month value)

Included with FREE 30 Days of Community

Access to get thoughts and insights straight from the source (me!). Send a public question about the course, practices, or real world application any time in the Lucky Lady community and Sonia will respond within 48 hours.

Soft Power Sessions

 ($250/month value)

Included with FREE 30 Days of Community

Access therapeutic level support at a fraction of the cost. These monthly live 60-minute Zoom calls blend clinical expertise with transformational hot seat coaching, group dynamics, and energetic alignment with Sonia and a community of like-minded women.

The Safe & Secure Blueprint 

($5,000+ value)

Developed through 8 years of clinical education and specialized training in EMDR, yoga/somatics, and nervous system regulation. This proprietary methodology combines $150,000+ worth of my professional training into one accessible course. 

The Safe & Secure Blueprint includes 8 core modules covering nervous system regulation, attachment healing, somatic practices, feminine energy, emotional safety, and real-life embodiment.

The Lucky Lady Community 

(priceless)

Included with FREE 30 Days of Community

Connect with like-minded women who are also reclaiming their power to receive.

Lifetime Access to Blueprint

($1,500 value - but really, priceless)

Ongoing access to resources developed through years of therapeutic practice and specialized training. Return to this work whenever you need recalibration!

 Your Investment: $297

  OR 4 payments of $74.25.

You’ll receive immediate access.
The shift begins today, not “someday.”

You don’t need more time.
You don’t need to be more certain.
You don’t need another sign.

If you’ve read down this far, your system already knows.

Waiting doesn’t create safety.
Choosing does.

Yes. I'm Starting Today.

Join Today And Get One Month Free in the Lucky Lady Community

When you enroll today, click "Yes! Add Lucky Lady Community" at checkout, and you’ll receive 1 month FREE inside Lucky Ladies. Inside you’ll find:

  • Ongoing practices and resources to deepen what you’re learning

  • The Lucky Lady Lifeline - ask Sonia a question in the public community and get feedback within 48hrs!
  • Access to monthly live Soft Power Sessions over Zoom, our version of group coaching!

After your free month, you can continue for just $44/month -but whether you stay or not, you’ll have lifetime access to the full Safe & Secure course.

Your Investment: $297 today OR paid over time

IMPORTANT: You must click "Yes! Add Lucky Lady Community" at checkout in order to join and receive 30 Days FREE inside Lucky Ladies otherwise you will only receive the course.

It's Safe to Let Yourself Be Supported

Payment Options

Full Payment 

$297

Accepting Credit, Debit, Apple Pay, and Google Pay

OR

Pay Over Time

 $74.25 today

AfterPay and Klarna available!

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Yes, I Give Myself Permission to Choose Me
You're Welcome to Continue

About Me

Hi, I’m Sonia Hopkins (now Hartsuff) - licensed professional counselor, trauma therapist, and founder of Lucky Lady Coaching.

I’ve spent years in my therapy practice helping women (and men) heal attachment wounds, regulate their nervous systems, and step into the love + life they deserve.

But here’s the truth: I don’t just teach this work - I’ve lived it.

From my own inner child healing, to working on my journey from scarcity/poverty mindset to abundant secure receiving, to building a deeply connected relationship with my husband after years of long distance, career shifts, and financial struggles, to supporting clients through trauma breakthroughs - I know what it takes to shift from survival into secure.

As I grow in my coaching role, this course is the distillation of some of my most foundational and transformative tools - brought to you in a way that’s practical, soulful, accessible, and ready for you to receive now.

I'm Ready to Be Supported

Frequently Asked Questions

If a part of you is whispering that you’re ready for a softer, more grounded chapter…

You can trust that nudge.
Because the truth is, waiting is still a choice.
It just costs more.

Do you want to wait or start today?

A month from now, you’ll still be here - or you’ll be grateful you started today.

Questions? I'm here to support you: [email protected]

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